At this time of year, most of us are fortunately spending time with family. Unfortunately, it is also a busy time for the Family Court which experiences a sharp increase in disputes. Justice Kirsty Macmillan touched on this subject during her welcome speech to the Family Court earlier this week.
Justice Macmillan reminds us that family comes first
For many of us the reason for being is what keeps us going. For many of us, that spark is our family. This was beautifully brought to life in the newly-appointed judge to the Family Court Justice Macmillan's welcome speech. Her Honour started her speech with family; most new judges finish their welcome speech by mentioning family.
A jurisdiction where no one is a winner
Justice Macmillan also went onto to remark how important it was to ensure that families felt they had been heard and supported in a jurisdiction where no one was a winner. How true. The moment a couple walk into a court all we have is a story of ruination. Nothing good can come from a family in crisis - a family that is so dysfunctional that it has to leave its fate to a complete stranger- a judge.
“It is in this sense that the process and how we deal with the parties to the litigation is so important… [It is] important that they leave the court feeling that they have been listened to and able to move on with their lives. At the end of the day it is about them and their families not about us.” Justice Macmillan
What Her Honour promised was not a resolution with one clear victor, but a couple who truly felt listened to and respected at possibly the worst time of their lives. Her Honour's theory is about to be tested as she faces her first five day hearing involving self-represented litigants.
What is more important than a child’s happiness?
So, as we near the end of 2012, I ask you to spare a thought for all the families who are not happily sitting down to a table to break bread together, but polarized without anyone to hear their plea. And spare a thought for the public servants who try to determine who should be at which end of the festive occasion to hug and kiss their children.
Also spare a thought for the most vulnerable people in this entire equation - the children. How do we want them to remember this Christmas? A time of parents fighting or not speaking, or a festive season where parents were divided by nothing but geography. Ask yourself this - what is more important than a child's happiness?
As this is my last Presidents Blog, I’d like to take this opportunity to wish you all a happy festive season and a safe new year with your loved ones.